Whistleblower

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Tuesday, November 15, 2005

Will you marry me?

Male CEOs have frequently wedded their secretaries but would a female boss do the same? When it comes to the shaadi business, would a 'woman of today' marry a less successful man?
The fiery feminist and the only female New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd is out with a new malebashing book called Are Men Necessary? In the book, the writer claims that men are essentially insecure creatures who prefer malleable women, to those who use their critical faculties. She writes, "The aroma of male power is an aphrodisiac for women, but the perfume of female power is a turnoff for men. Men seem to marry only their secretaries, assistants, nannies, caterers, flight attendants..." Now we reverse this hypothesis and pose this question to women who are successful in their career... Are they willing to date or marry a guy who earns less than them or is less successful?
The answer seems to be that they only marry their equals, if not social and economic betters. "Any wherewithal that will help them achieve the kind of lifestyle and aspirations they strive for is highly desirable. Given this generation's preoccupation with social climbing by any means, most women are alert and choosy in relationships. They want guys who are at least their equals," says Sita Raina, theatre personality.
But for Manpreet Brar, model, the economic background of a potential suitor is insignificant. "If a man is progressive and intelligent, he is better than a misogynistic corporate hotshot any day," she says. The underlying assumption is that intelligence a more valuable currency than money. "Any smart guy would do well in whatever he would undertake, so, a bright guy is a great investment," says Puja Nayyar, fashion designer. Adds Meera Ramachandran, principal, Gargi College, "Earlier women attached importance to monetary security and support of their spouse but now roles have reversed."